Gentlemen... listen up

Gentlemen… Listen Up

Gentlemen, gentlemen, I advise you one of the most important lessons. I'm tired of helping young men from Manchester find wives. I'm tired.

I resign. Early retirement from this job. Say brother, what are you looking for? This, this, this, but she has to look 10 out of 10.

Okay, good sister, ethnicity matching, culture matching, personality compatibility, ages matching, everything's good. But Ustad, she ain't a 10 out of 10 though. She's a 7 out of 10.

Once we get to sister number 23, I resign. Brother, you help yourself. I can't help you.

The Hyper-Sexualised World and Skyrocketing Standards

Attraction is important. But because of the hyper-sexualised world we live in, the stuff you see on screens, on billboards is so bad. Our minimum requirement has skyrocketed to the roof.

And we forget the story of Musa عليه السلام. The story starts with two women. And if it was not for the nurturing of these two women, this man would not have turned out the man that he would have turned out to be.

You Are Looking for the Mother of Your Children

When you are looking for a spouse, whether it's a wife looking for a husband or vice versa, remember that you are looking for the mother of your children. Do you see that in this person? Do you see that responsibility, that maturity? Because believe me, when you have children and you have family and responsibilities, that 10 out of 10 that you are looking for — that won't be as important as it was when your hormones were raging.

The nurturing woman is the most important character in the first half of the life of Musa عليه السلام.

The Lesson of Asiya bint Muzahim

If it was not for Asiya bint Muzahim, who would have grown up around tyrants, around oppressors, around pagans — there would not be a single soul to look after him and to teach him what's right. But one woman was able to turn the tide completely against the entire society around him. It just takes one woman, one righteous, nurturing woman.

A Word of Gratitude

May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala have mercy and accept the efforts of all the women of this ummah who were responsible for all the gentlemen sat here right in front of us. Make sure you call your mums after this talk, insha'Allah, and send her a thank you note. I know I will as well, insha'Allah.